What do nipple piercings, skiing, gay policemen and affairs have in common?

Not at lot you may think. Well these and many more topics were covered during a get together with a group of friends recently.  We haven’t seen each other for some time and spent a wonderful evening together truly putting the world to rights.

And how fabulous to know that we could talk about anything and everything without anyone taking offence. 

Isn’t that what good friends are for?

We really did cover some diverse topics and I won’t be able to cover everything in the blog but here are some edited highlights . . . . . .

Okay so what would you do if after over 20 years of being in a relationship with someone, they told you they no longer wanted to be with you any more, what would your reaction be?

For many, apart from thinking about some kind of revenge, it would probably be a makeover of some kind.  Perhaps buy new clothes, have a new haircut, just transform yourself in general.

But would you have your nipple pierced? 

We were intrigued by a story we had heard about someone who did just that.  While we could understand the rebellious side of someone’s nature urging them to do something outrageous, in practical terms what would it be like?

None of us would have entertained the idea, but we were more than a little fascinated about how you cope with clothes etc - wouldn’t it catch, wouldn’t it show through your clothes and lets face it, unlike a pair of earrings you can’t exactly show someone your latest piece of body jewellery. 

And that’s without thinking of how much it must hurt to get it done!

We imagined the conversation in the office on the Monday morning following having it done. "Morning, did you have a good weekend?"  "Yes thanks"  "Did you do anything nice?"  "Yes, I had this done" whilst lifting your top up.

Cue the coffee being sprayed from people’s mouths.

This also led on to another conversation about affairs.  Again, we were amazed by how many people around us were either separating, divorcing or having affairs.  We’re talking seemingly normal relationships where people have just grown apart.

What turns people from having loving relationships into wanting to move away from each other?  Is it that we expect too much from our partners?  Are we living in such a stressful society that we want everything to be sorted immediately, therefore our tolerance level is lowered.

Do we only care about ourselves and not those around us? 

Is it that we have this idealistic view on how things should be because of what we see in films or on tv that we are sadly disappointed in real life?

After reading a lot of books by Alan Pease who is an expert on body language and relationships maybe it boils down to the fact that we don’t understand each other properly.

More on this later . . . .