Quiz Night - Don’t Bring Her Again!

I forgot to mention that during the week I was invited out with some friends that I met when I had my first born. 

The plan was for a meal at a local pub/restaurant and then take part in the quiz afterwards, which sounded great.

I’d had another bit of ‘nodding dog’ syndrome at work that day and was really, really tired.  I spent most of my day thinking up excuses not to go.  These ranged from not turning up and then giving the old ‘oh was it last night, I thought it was tonight’, to one of the children not being right or even myself being poorly.

But, after talking it through with my husband on the lunch time, he convinced me I should go.

After having a shower and freshening up I left home albeit it a little late and found my friends at the pub.  It was when we sat around the table before our meal one of our friends came up with the proposed name of our team in the quiz which was ‘Decade of Friendship’ that it struck home how long we had known each other.

Ten years had passed since we had all cuddled our first newborn babies, and then took it in turns to offer our houses once a week for tea and chats and compare what was happening in our babies lives.

Ten years!!  Where did that time go?  Of course as one by one each of us went back to work and our lives, our once a week meets lessened for some of us, although we’ve tried to maintain contact through the odd meal here and there.

It was only when I sat quietly looking around that I actually felt quite shameful.  Even though we had met ten years ago, I didn’t really know any one of them particularly well.  Some of them had closer relationships which is a natural process, but I realised that I could have made more of an effort over the years.

In my case I had a spell of lacking in confidence and withdrew from people but nevertheless this didn’t count for the whole ten years.

I know in life we naturally veer towards people we have connections with and I do have close friends that I see regularly, but is it now too late to start picking up the phone to these other mums more regularly?  Would they feel - what does she want now, she doesn’t normally call?

Maybe my lack of confidence still hasn’t totally come back, but it did make me wonder if life being so busy is an excuse and not a reason.

On a positive note we came about fifth out of 20 odd teams that night.  I’m not good at quizzes but I did make up for it by writing the answers down very neatly!!

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