I have come to the conclusion there are quite a few genuine men on site that are in truth very lonely and would like to find new friends even if they cannot find a new lover.

Some of these men , I have to admit,  I would never talk to in a million years because they do not instantly appeal to  my visual senses. But having already been rejected myself and found it is not a very pleasant feeling (even if they are super tossers from another world and I wouldn’t piss on them to douse a fire! - oops sorry woman scorned and all that) I decided that I would respond to everyone that approached me even if only to ever soooo gently flick them away .

 I have had what I term ‘finger chats’  (typing not speaking), with at least a dozen men already, of whom only three have appealed to me visually. The others have appealed by their profile and the way they have approached me with the written word. 

One chap was so pleased I actually responded he thanked me and then went into a full explanation for the thanks. He further discussed that he felt the site was more about looks and although he acknowledged that this was acceptable to a degree, he was totally blown away by how both sexes were so shallow.

I have to say his photo was unfortunate and in his next paragraph gave me his phone number and "wanted to meet for coffee and see where we go from there………"

Poor sod smacked of desperation and I have very kindly cooled his heels for the time being. This is probably why those visually judgemental people choose to ignore you to ensure that they do not have to deal with these soul destroying moments.

Interestingly eighty percent of men have given out phone numbers and or email addresses within the second or third message. He was in the 80% .

I have refrained from that because as  yet I have not found one to be email worthy at this stage and  plus I feel secure in my cyberdating world enclosure!